Performance anxiety is one of the most common issues that I deal with in my private coaching practice with my male clients. If you think about it, it says a lot about the person who has the performance anxiety because it means that they care about how much their partner enjoys themselves. I like to assume the best in people.
Sexual performance anxiety greatly affects a man's self-confidence. Thankfully overcoming sexual performance anxiety is possible at any age and stage of a man's life. Anxiety is a normal part of life; therefore, it is likely that most people experience anxiety at some point in their lives.
People experiencing performance anxiety may worry about failing a task before it has even begun. They might believe failure will result in humiliation or rejection. While performance anxiety can occur with any task.
My dad would put me under so much pressure and I'd crack. It's the same emotion now when I think about my sexual performance! Oh, but before we start, please let's not get all Freudian with thoughts of 'shooting' and such. Performance anxiety - whether it's on the rifle range when you're 15 or in the bedroom when you're 25 - feels the same.
Here's how to inoculate ourselves against negative ones. Verified by Psychology Today. What Would Aristotle Do?
From premature ejaculation to performance, the pressure on guys in the bedroom can be underestimated. Did you know that around 1 in 10 men in the UK have an issue related to having sex, such as erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation? For many men, this pressure can quickly have a psychological effect, and may lead to performance anxiety and, over time, stress and anxiety can lead to difficulty in getting or maintaining an erection.
Sex occupies the minds of young men in more ways than the obvious. In my work as a relationship counsellor and sex therapist about 40 per cent of my clients are men, mostly between 18 and 35 years old. Their main issue is they believe they have some sort of sexual dysfunction, such as premature ejaculation, repeated erection loss, difficulties in ejaculation or an inability to ejaculate at all. One client, let's call him James, is a gorgeous year-old young man.
This performance mindset leads many men to be self-conscious, self-critical, worried, tense and anxious while being sexual. This in turns often results in bringing about the very problem they were worrying about in the first place: erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or difficultly experiencing orgasm. These sexual problems can be caused by various medical conditions, or may even result from—or be made worse by—various medications you may taking.